Most of us are familiar with, or are even living, the “sandwich generation”. We fully expect to take care of our kids and realize as our parents age they may also need our help. But did you ever think you might have to add taking care of your sibling to the mix?

A number of my clients have been sharing stories about how a Brother or Sister has fallen on hard times and they have to step in and help. There are many circumstances that cannot be foreseen, some that we have seen our whole lives that may put us in the position of having to help. Clear rules, boundaries, and limitations need to come with the help if any type of relationship is to be maintained after the need passes.

If your Sib needs housing, try to put a time limit to the use of your guest bedroom. If the need is money, drawing up a repayment contract might not be a bad idea. You have to put on a business face as well as the compassionate face of a Sibling in order to keep the peace for years to come.