A couple of weeks ago my daughter got engaged; soon I will carry the title of Mother-in law. We are very happy and there is a lot to do over the next 18 months. I cannot help but put on the “advice cap” that comes along with my new title. Since my future son-in-law is still in college while my daughter is working as an RN, I have a lot of advice. They are currently living off of mainly one income, but that will change.
When my daughter started working I had her immediately start deposits to both her retirement plan and to an emergency fund. Eventually, there will be two incomes and their dynamic will change. Here is some additional advice to anyone who is approaching marriage:
Put money on the agenda:
Money is a big issue for all couples, as newlyweds, they need to discuss their feelings and goals regarding their money.
Is your debt my debt?
How do you payoff student loans? What about an auto loan? Do you pool resources to pay debts jointly or do you keep them separate with separate payment responsibility? This is where basic budgeting comes in handy. I am not a fan of separate accounts, but my attitude does not work for all couples.
Plan ahead:
When do you plan of having kids? What will you do for child care? How much do you want to spend on housing? What are your short-term, medium –term, and long-term goals? Successful couples address these questions, and revisit them at regular intervals.
I embrace my upcoming title and am looking forward to a wonderful future for their new lives together.
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